I want you to recall the first few weeks or months after you met your spouse or love partner.
Actually try to visualize an early date and scenario that took place then that made the two of you to seem the best pair in the whole wide world, remember those feelings? And they definitely felt the same about you.
Remember how it felt falling in love, how happily distracted you were, how you couldn't wait to see her — how everything he said got interesting and funny.
But now not so much fun.
Frustration, hurt feelings, and unmet needs are always simmering just below the surface. One wrong word, one sideways glance, is all it will take to cause the lid to blow. And blow it has — many times.
Now you kept on wondering how it came to this. What happened to the joy, the fun times together, the great sex, the intimate talks? Where are those two people who fell so head-over-heels in love?
If you spend more time in your love life fighting or feeling angry, hurt, or resentful than you do enjoying the connection, then it's past time to take action. Right now Go on, break out of your relationship rut, reconnect with your partner, and fire up the passion that brought you together in the first place.
Here are some ideas and steps on how to rekindle your relationship and fall back in love:
But first do you still want to stay?
Before you begin working the relationship, please be very honest with yourself and answer the question below.
Do you really want this relationship or Marriage to work?
Are you invested in it enough that you're willing to make some changes?
Do you truly want to have a happy, healthy, intimate connection with this particular person?
If the answer is no, and you've been with this person a long time, go to counseling anyway to be absolutely sure it's not just your anger clouding your judgment. Yes! Anger can do that.
However, if the answer is yes, and you know with certainty you want the relationship to work, then read on.
Both you and your spouse or partner must embrace this foundational premise: your relationship together takes priority over everything else in your life.
If your relationship isn't solid, everything else in your life will be negatively impacted. Your happiness in a relationship is essential for a maximum performance, and mental health of you and your partner.
Respect the individual
Everyone has the innate right to be who they are and to feel free with their most intimate partner to express their true selves.
Just because you've come together as a couple doesn't mean you should expect your partner to be someone else, meet all of your needs, or view the world in the exact same way you do. You are two distinct people, two adults, who fell in love and chose to live together
Your expectations and treatment of each other should reflect this truth. Once you accept and respect the other person for who they are, then you can find a way to work through differences thoughtfully and kindly. Hope you got my point?
Touch.
"So many couples hold back kissing, touching, or holding each other until they have time or the desire to have sex," says Meyers. But that's a mistake. Researchers have found that affectionate touch boosts the body's feel-good hormones.Hug your partner. Hold hands. Be playful with touch.
"Whisper sweet and adoring things into your partner's ear. Brush against him in a sexually seductive way," says Meyers. "Affection is a way to make love all day outside of the bedroom."
Focus on you.
When you love yourself and your life, you bring more energy and interest into your relationship.
"Independence and a sense of purpose are sexy," When you take care of your own needs and pursue what you're passionate about, you become less predictable and more interesting to your partner. You'll be more confident and peaceful as you keep evolving, and your relationship will thrive.
Don't argue in anger
This might be the most difficult change to adopt, but it will be the most life-changing. When you feel angry at your spouse, and you want to yell and scream and say something really hurtful or snarky, walk away instead.
When your anger grows to the point you can't control it, have a rule with yourself you will step away from your partner until the anger dissipates. Words spoken in anger are poison to your close connection. They might feel good in the moment, but they often cause irreparable harm.
Walking away from angry interactions is part of putting the relationship as a priority over your ego.
Create opportunities for fun
Prioritize having fun and adventure together over some of the seemingly more important activities of your life. Your house and yard don't have to be perfect.
Go on regular date nights. Take weekend excursions. Try to reconnect to the feelings you had when you first fell in love, when the world was your oyster and life had a rosy glow to it.
Hope this post helped? Kindly drop comment or even more tips to rekindle a relationship.Thank you reader
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